Why men have affairs?
Speak about a loaded subject that no one wants to talk about, this is it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on from old ages. Extramarital affairs can be loaded with evils, cause despair, and other harms. In addition you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and frankness thing, funds, age dissimilarity, spiritual upbringing, guilt, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I shall define an affair as a long term, maybe weeks long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, lonely wife looks for dating.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many answers as there are men seeking an affair. I think mainly though it is just the human condition, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Biologically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us get away the real world for a small period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people can turn the desire on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos culture has erected against married dating. For lots of people the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the rage of not only their relatives, but society also. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your relatives or anybody else? You would need to minimize the risk you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest cluster, enormous in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they are happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to think about. Your funds are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that stop them completing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An extramarital affair from time to time solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Ignoring, sadly this is a frequent groung I fear. One or the other, generally the guy is sexually neglecting his spouse for a large humber of reasons. As a man I really am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them obtainable to us males of romance, making them “hot wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is vanished, maybe it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have simply developed apart, our general concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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